LGBT+ Virtual Speed Friending

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Not Outcast, Just Out

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Written by Tim Evans

Republishing a piece from my past that is just as relevant today as it was back when I originally wrote it... I am 43 years old and have been "out" for about seven years. I've always known that I am gay. I think back to when I was nine or 10 years old and having crushes on great-looking male characters on television. My attraction to men has never, been in doubt, but my ability to act upon it used to be something that I figured would not be in my future. In high school I developed huge crushes on some of the guys; the loneliness and frustration of not having anywhere to go with that feeling led me to compensate with alcohol and drugs.

For the next 18 years my secret remained intact, although at times friends would occasionally confront me about not ever having a girlfriend. My mother would suggest I find "some rich lady" to settle down with. I never knew what to say to this and would mumble some lame excuse about not being comfortable around girls or that I had a hard enough time taking care of myself, let alone a girlfriend.

When the drinking finally ended (that is another story), I confronted my homosexuality for the first time. I began to think to myself, "Why can't I be out in the world?" and to entertain the thought that maybe, just maybe, I could find a man to fall in love with.

Well I did find a wonderful, kind, handsome man and fell in love. Robert is someone who I can feel completely comfortable with — a soulmate. I shared my relationship with Robert with one of my brothers — and in the process came out to him. His reaction was fairly unemotional but accepting. The rest of my family heard about Robert, but as "just a friend." I had yearned to come out to my entire family for a long time; now that Robert was in my life, the urge to was becoming too great to suppress.

Along came my birthday in 1998. My parents came to visit and invited Robert and me out to dinner. I wasn't sure if they suspected that I was gay and Robert was more than a friend, and they were uncomfortable with that - then they would not have extended such an invitation. So we accepted and the evening went fine! There were no uncomfortable lapses in the dinner conversation, no unexpected or rude comments. My parents are older folks and live by an ethic of good manners (something I like I like to think got passed on to me).

The next day, as we said our good-byes, my mother invited us both to Thanksgiving dinner at my brother's house in Connecticut! I accepted the invitation and began to see this as the golden opportunity to come out to my entire family as a gay man with a loving partner. Robert and I made plans to drive to Connecticut and make our first Evans family appearance as a couple on Thanksgiving Day.

I thought I should explain or come out directly to my parents before we arrived on the big day. So I sent my mother a thank-you note, for the birthday dinner; explaining that Robert and I are partners and hope to share a _home together soon. Suddenly my "secret" was in writing and in my parents' hands.

We were both excited and a little nervous on the long drive to Connecticut. I'd gotten no reply to my note and wondered if this was a bad sign. On arrival at my, brother's house, we were greeted with the familiar smells of turkey. squash and pies all baking and simmering at once. Various family members bustled about in the kitchen but stopped to warmly welcome us. There was no hostility or coldness. For years, I feared telling my parents I am gay, terrified about how they'd react; then there I was with my entire family as a gay man in a relationship with another man! At different times my father and mother each sat next to Robert and talked with him; he and my mother had a wonderful discussion about making and stenciling curtains. When it came time to leave, we both got lots of hugs and comments such as "too bad you couldn't stay longer." I could not have imagined a more accepting scenario.

So what to gather from all of this? Perhaps the most important feeling I got was that so much time goes by and we often become frozen by our fears of the unknown. In my case I was living under the assumption that my family, and especially my parents, would not accept me as a gay man and would somehow show their disapproval. Whether that disapproval would be overt anger or, more likely, an intolerable silence, I was too afraid to risk finding out.

Although my family and I will probably never be as close as some, I now feel a sense of belonging and a "part of" that I don't think was ever there before. This is truly a moment I will cherish and grow upon. While I realize not all family coming-out experiences will produce the same results as mine, I believe the best way to go is to face that awful fear, take a chance, and find out before it is too late.

Non-binary student booed and jeered by parents at CUSD meeting

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During their two minutes at the lectern, Rami (who identifies as non-binary and says he’s immunocompromised) forcefully delivered a message many in the room didn’t want to hear: Their protests over school mask mandates and vaccines — all based on slanted mistruths about COVID — reek of ignorance and privilege. “We sit here arguing about a piece of fabric that weighs 12 grams while millions of families lose their loved ones,” they said. “Set aside your pretentious arrogance and think of those you hold dear. Think about how you would feel if they were suddenly taken from you without warning, without mercy.”

Public comment continued like nothing happened — and if Bee reporter Ashleigh Panoo hadn’t found Rami sitting alone in the hallway a few minutes later, none of this would have come out.

By saying and doing nothing while a crowd booed and jeered, Fogg and his fellow trustees failed in their responsibility. Which, in that respect, makes them no better than the bullies themselves.

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Phil Sparrow, Gay Pioneer in Tattooing

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Written by Tim Evans

  Samuel M. Steward, PhD aka Phil Sparrow was a gay pioneer in the world of tattoo, sexual researcher as an associate of Dr. Alfred Kinsey, and a writer of gay erotica under the name Phil Andros. His book Bad Boys and Tough Tattoos chronicles his years as a tattooist among the derelicts and young sailors that roamed the darker side of Chicago. He kept a detailed diary of his customers and their reasons for tattoos.

   Phil Sparrow was a pseudonym for Dr. Samuel Steward after he left a 20- year position in academia in the early 1950s that was dull and unrewarding and entered the wild and at the time, underground world of tattooing on the shady side of Chicago. His book Bad Boys and Tough Tattoos offers an interesting view into the life of a gay man, a tattooist no less in the 1950s and 60s. I found this book when I Googled “gay tattoo artists” and his name appeared, among others. His story is fascinating and deserves a place not only in tattoo history but in our gay archives as well.

   Bad Boys and Tough Tattoos was published in 1990 and the era in which it takes place now seems archaic compared to the surge in popularity of tattoos and modern well lit, sanitary shops. When Phil Sparrow started his tattooing much of it was done with flash, a premade design displayed on the walls of tattoo shops. Phil started in the bad side of Chicago where gangs, drunks and sailors from a nearby naval training base gathered to get a tattoo and sometimes share their sordid tales. His was a step above the “jaggers”, a derogatory term for unscrupulous tattooists. Phil made certain his equipment was sanitary and refused to tattoo under the age of 18. He would not, like some would, tattoo someone who appeared drunk. Later when he moved from Chicago to Oakland, CA he became the “official” tattooist for the Hells Angels

   What of Samuel’s gayness in the days before Stonewall? In this book he mentions the subject only briefly and without much detail. He was out in his personal life but feared being labeled a homosexual in his business and on the street as it might attract too many “tricks”. He writes, “In those days, before the Stonewall incident, it was imperative that if you were homosexual you had to keep it hidden”. As far as gay men that he knew there was not much interest in getting tattooed with such reasons as “I hate needles” and “I would never put THAT on my body.”

   Samuel’s book is a fascinating look into the world of tattooing in the 50s and 60s from the perspective of a literary and artistic gay man. As much as the gay community and society as a whole has now embraced tattoos Bad Boys and Tough Tattoos is a fascinating snapshot of the artforms mid to late 20^th century history.

LGBTQ+ Men: At the Intersection of Identities

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Please join the Male Success Initiative of Stanislaus State and Men’s Success Initiative of Fresno State as we celebrate LGBT+ History Month in the Central Valley. Dr. John Pryor, Assistant Professor, Educational Leadership of Fresno State will lead a workshop on LGBT+ History. The panelist will discuss their journeys and the importance of allyship and the intersectionalities of men of color/men in the LGBTQ+ community.

Constellating Care Networks

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Written by Jason

Constellating Care Networks is an exhibition and mapping project highlighting the history and presence of Fresno’s LGBTQ+ community. The exhibition includes collaborations with Imperial Dove Court; El Daña; Reel Pride Film Festival; Qistory; Bruise Violet Collective; FCC Allied Staff and Faculty Association; and a series of live performances by Fattycakes and the Puff Pastries; Drew Sands (Trap Girl); and Eighteen Hundreds.

MAPPING PROJECT:

We invite members of the community to participate in a public mapping project which locates the unique history, present, and future of the LGBTQ+ community in Fresno and the surrounding rural areas and towns. We invite you to share artwork, memories, stories, networks, and places. "Places" could mean: bars, bookstores, intersections, street names, fields, grassroots organizations, informal safe spaces, clubs, and music venues. These constellations will be added to a large-scale “map” which will accumulate over the run of the exhibition.

WAYS TO PARTICIPATE:

• Online: From August 20, you can upload images and tell us about your places and networks.
• In person (Until Oct 8th): Materials and prompts are available in the gallery during our regular opening hours and special events (Mon—Thurs 10AM—4PM; AH (Art/Home Economics Building #17)).
• Schedule a facilitated mapping workshop for your group or organization: contact This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

Constellating Care Networks at Fresno City College is organized in conversation with the exhibition Nobody Promised you Tomorrow: Art 50 Years After Stonewall (August 19—October 31, Phebe Conley Gallery CSU Fresno). Constellating Care Networks is organized by Art Space Gallery curator Elena Harvey Collins, Katherine Fobear, Assistant Professor of Women and Gender Studies at CSU Fresno, and artist and community arts facilitator Carissa Garcia. It is co-sponsored by the Center for Creativity and the Arts, College of Arts and Humanities, Fresno State. This exhibit is also made possible by the McClatchy Fresno Arts Endowment of the James B. McClatchy Foundation. 

6th Annual Sept. Spectacular Resource Fair

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An LGBTQ+ and Ally Resource Fair for the community. Local organizations and out of town Community Service Based agencies that serve our community.
Free Food Distribution & Raffles
Free COVID Vaccine Mobile Unit
Several Resource Booths
Live Entertainment
Bounce House
Booths from:
#anthembluecrossmedical The Fresno Spectrum Center, Faith Advocacy, LGBT Fresno, PFLAG of Fresno, Equality CA., Out Against Tobacco, Legal Aid at Work, Trans-E-Motion, The Fresno Center, The Holistic Center, WelbeHealth, Community Link, Pride Panthers Coalition Inc., Ca. Rural Legal Aid Services

Elvira Reveals She’s Been In A LTR With A Woman

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Cassandra Peterson — best known to the world as Elvira, Mistress of the Dark — released her new memoir Yours Cruelly, Elvira today and, in the process, came out by revealing her 19-year relationship with another woman, Teresa “T” Wierson.

Their relationship began, as all the best do, at the Hollywood Gold’s Gym when Peterson spotted who she thought at the time was the hottest bad boy in Tinseltown. “Often, when I was doing my preworkout warm-up on the treadmill, I couldn’t help noticing one particular trainer — tan, tattooed, and muscular — stalking across the gym floor, knit cap pulled so low over his long brown hair that it nearly covered his eyes,” she writes in the book. “Dark and brooding, he gave off such intense energy that when he crossed the enormous gym floor, the waters parted and people stopped in their tracks to stare.” 

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Nobody Promised You Tomorrow

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Nobody Promised You Tomorrow: Art 50 Years After Stonewall presents a constellation of twenty-eight LGBTQ+ artists born after the 1969 Stonewall Uprising and working, five decades later, in New York, the hometown of the revolt. Commemorating the fiftieth anniversary of the six-day rebellion—ignited by a routine police raid on the Stonewall Inn, a gay bar in Greenwich Village—the exhibition explores the profound legacy of the Uprising within art and visual culture today. At once looking into history and facing the future, the artists on view pay tribute to activist fore parents while asking how we will care for tomorrow’s generations.

Drawing its title form the rallying words of Black trans artists and activist Marsha P. Johnson, the exhibition underscores both the precariousness and the vitality of LGBTQ+ communities through the interconnected themes of revolt, heritage, desire, and care. A leader in the Stonewall Uprising, Johnson remains a touchstone for many of the artists whose work engages radical antecedents of the LGBTQ+ organizing. Honoring figures who have been excluded from mainstream storytelling, these artists challenge us to recount history from the perspectives of those surviving at its margins.

In this spirit, Nobody Promised You Tomorrow aims to expand our collective imagination of the Stonewall Uprising, beyond protestors in the street, to consider the everyday acts of care between friends and lovers that sustain communities and public activism. White supremacy and persistent state violence, gender-based oppression, and the increasing pressures of gentrification form the social and political backdrop of this exhibition. The artists presented here grapple with these conditions to question how moments in his- tory become contested monuments.

Nobody Promised You Tomorrow: Art 50 Years After Stonewall was organized by the Brooklyn Museum and curated by Margo Cohen Ristorucci, Public Pro- grams Coordinator; Lindsay C. Harris, Teen Programs Manager; Carmen Hermo, Associate Curator, Elizabeth A. Sackler Center for Feminist Art; A.L. Rickard, former Curatorial Assistant, Elizabeth A. Sackler Center for Feminist Art; and Lauren Argentina Zelaya, Director, Public Programs, Brooklyn Museum, with assistance from Levi Narine, former Teen Programs Assistant, InterseXtions and Special Projects, Brooklyn Museum.

Participating Artists

Mark Aguhar • Marcel Alcalá • Chicome Itzcuintli Amatlapalli • Felipe Baeza • Morgan Bassichis • Anna Betbeze • Lukaza Branfman-Verissimo • David Antonio Cruz • TM Davy • Amaryllis DeJesus Moleski • John Edmonds • Mohammed Fayaz• Camilo Godoy • Jeffrey Gibson • Hugo Gyrl • Juliana Huxtable • Rindon Johnson • DonChristian Jones • Papi Juice • Elektra KB • LINDALA • Park McArthur • Michi Ilona Osato • Una Aya Osato • Elle Pérez • LJ Roberts • Tuesday Smillie • Tourmaline • Kiyan Williams • Sasha Wortzel • Constantina Zavitsanos

LGBT+ Meux Home Tour

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Join LGBT Fresno for a private group tour of the beautiful Meux home and gardens. Never been? What a great chance to see a national landmark! Been before? Come see the restoration projects done over the last year.

SIX HUNDRED THOUS-AND YOU

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Written by Peter Robertson

SIX HUNDRED THOUS-AND YOU.

The Bulldog Pride Fund was established in 2005 with two $50 donations, and officially recognized by the Fresno State Alumni Association in 2006.
As of June 30, 2021, total donations to the BPF have surpassed $600,000! Overall, the BPF endowment has provided 86 scholarships valued at $165,000.
Thank you, donors, for your support of and investment in students attending Fresno State. We appreciate you.

BONUS INTRA. MELIOR EXI.
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Kampout Returns

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Written by Janet

After having to cancel the 40 th Anniversary of Kampout last year due to COVID, the Kampout Committee has begun preparations for the celebration of 40 years in the pines. Kampout 2021, A Hike Down Memory Trail, will be held the weekend after Labor Day, September 10 through 12 at our site across the road from Texas Flat Campground.

The theme this year is your favorite theme…and there are a lot to choose from. From the Stone Age to the 60s, from under the sea to outer space, Kampout has gone to the movies, Vegas, the wild west…just about everywhere and everything has been covered…and we’d love to see your favorite on display.

The cost for the weekend is still just $40. Kampers who arrive early will be subject to a $10 a day per person charge. The cost of admission covers your kampsite, 2 beer busts, the Progressive Kocktail Party, 2 breakfasts, Saturday dinner and
much, much more. You can relax by the creek or join in all the fun and games and compete for prizes. There’s the Yacht Regatta, Needle in the Haystack, and the always popular and hilarious Kamptown Races. Don’t forget the Kampstravaganza Show on Saturday night where you can compete for the titles of Kamp King and Kamp Kween. We encourage everyone to participate in this fun show.

Camping in the Sierras can cost around $30 a night, just for a place to pitch your tent. At $40 for the whole weekend, Kampout is the best bargain for your entertainment buck. This year, in accordance with government guidelines, proof of full vaccination or a negative COVID test dated 3 days prior to arrival will be required. There will be no exceptions to this.
The health and safety of our kampers is #1 priority.
So, mark your calendars...celebrate our anniversary…we hope to see you all.
For more information, see our website at www.kampoutfresno.com
You can also visit our Facebook page and join our event.